Overcoming the Scarcity Myth with Tarzan Kay

Having is one thing, enjoying is another. I was so excited to connect with Tarzan because she understands that very well and with such nuance. I know you will get so much value from her insights as a successful business owner, mom, and a master of email marketing — who is on the frontlines of breaking the patriarchal rules in marketing, the rules that have been emptying out our self-esteem, confidence, and wallets (intrigued?).

We spoke about:

  • how the patriarchy creates exhaustion (hint: it’s not about hours worked, it’s about expectations and trauma defenses)

  • how ‘having it all’ doesn’t make us feel safe in the world

  • how so much of marketing is ‘polluted by patriarchy,’ and how knowing that can shift our perspective on business and the world

  • how to show up authentically and share our true journeys, to connect with our true audience

  • how ‘winning’ and ‘losing’ are ethos of the patriarchy, and hurt all of us

  • how to shift from operating out of scarcity to approaching from abundance, so we can collectively rise

  • realizing the trauma we were born with, and the cost (and benefits) of breaking free

  • how important it is to live in this moment and consider how you want your journey to look in the right now


Tarzan is a master of email marketing and former copywriter-for-hire who specializes in fun-to-read, more-addictive-than-Game-of-Thrones email copy. She also helps freelancers attract better clients who’ll reach deeper into their pockets to pay for top-quality services — also using the power of email, duh! In a previous life, Tarzan was a music major and – like so many copywriters – did a 3-year stint in law school, en français! She found her way to the online space through blogging and social media (“Whassup, overdue credit card bills and low-paying clients!”). When T-Money’s not in “Mob boss mode,” she likes to take mid-day dunks in the pool (even at frigid temperatures), stage backyard episodes of Ultimate Beastmaster, and sing show tunes in the shower. Tarzan lives in Niagara with her partner and two kiddos.

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Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the generational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” and her cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from survival to thriving and master the game of “How good can it get?” in their work and personal lives. Dr. Valerie is a sought-after speaker and trainer at conferences and companies committed to setting new standards of excellence in their industry in diversity, equity, and inclusion, employee satisfaction, their physical and mental health, and creativity and innovation.

Would you like to have Dr. Valerie speak to your audience? She can share with them:

  • Why despite having checked so many the boxes of accomplishment, high-achieving women are still dissatisfied, and why it’s not our fault.

  • What secretly drains 90% of your energy and productivity and how to reclaim them.

  • The missing piece to the upper limit problem and a solution that ends your big leap struggle.

  • Why fighting against your inner critic, self-doubt, and anxiety backfires and how to turn your inner adversaries into your strongest allies.

  • The biggest untapped resource of a woman’s personal power, why it is locked up, and how to set it free. PS It is also an instant antidote to stress and burnout.

And so much more…

Dr. Valerie’s book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” is here! And the first chapter is free to download. Buy it or sample it here.

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Learn about The Thriving Solution — any button on this page will take you to schedule a conversation about working with Dr. Valerie on healing PSD — in this program or in another way that’s a match for you or your organization.

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