Integrating Shame and Reclaiming Sexuality with Lauren Scott

Without acceptance, without representation, we will internalize ideas that we are not enough as we are, and we will make ourselves smaller and smaller, attempting to disappear and divorce ourselves from our bodies. Shame will force us to install triggers to protect ourselves. But there is power in doing the big work of reclaiming our pleasure and the wisdom of our bodies. This is the work Lauren Scott shares with the world and which I had the joy of talking with her about.

In this conversation, we discuss:

  • her experience growing up as a Black woman in a predominantly white area of Colorado and feeling that she had to cut off parts of herself to fit in

  • how her experience affected her feelings around her own appearance and sexuality

  • how deep shame was installed in her through church and purity culture, and grew into a way for her to protect herself

  • how she came to a breaking point that allowed her to deconstruct her spirituality and sexuality, and ultimately to trust herself

  • the core wound that causes many women to leave their body, run to the safety of the head, and looking for guidance from outside, instead of trusting the wisdom inside of ourselves

  • how she grew to tap into her ‘felt sense’ – tuning into the sensations inside herself- and how she’s learned to sit with and sooth anxiety through difficult experiences

  • how women have been conditioned to not allow themselves the permission to feel good and how it is vital for us to learn to integrate all parts of ourselves and to live in pleasure

  • how to identify our triggers and accept them to begin the reclamation journey – the process of shedding layers of conditioning and stringing together moments of wholeness and love

  • why pleasurable self care amongst women is imperative for us being able to show up and care for others, despite what we’ve been taught about the importance of sacrifice and the denial of pleasure


Lauren Scott is a EcoTherapist and Sex Coach that is obsessed with seeing women set free from the shame boxes around identity, sexuality, and faith. Lauren’s experiences of integrating shame and reclaiming sexuality from patriarchal oppression in church communities supports her in guiding clients forward to freedom. She is an advocate for embodied spirituality, pleasure, and sovereignty to take ownership over our lives. Lauren lives in Colorado where she spends her time hiking in the mountains, dancing to every type of music, and connecting with friends and family.

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During times of great stress we most need to support our nervous systems by experiencing pleasure. A great way to nurture your body is through the 5 senses. Use this practice to indulge in nurturing your body to support feel good chemicals and reduce stress.


Dr. Valerie Rein has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology.

Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” has been heralded by Amazon reviewers as “the most important body of literary work of our modern times” and “perhaps the most important book of the century for women.” Her cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from survival to thriving and master the game of “How good can it get?” in their work and personal lives.

Dr. Valerie is a sought-after speaker and trainer at conferences and companies committed to setting new standards of excellence in their industry in diversity, equity, and inclusion, employee satisfaction, their physical and mental health, and creativity and innovation.

Would you like to have Dr. Valerie speak to your audience? She can share with them:

  • Why despite having checked so many the boxes of accomplishment, high-achieving women are still dissatisfied, and why it’s not our fault.

  • What secretly drains 90% of your energy and productivity and how to reclaim them.

  • The missing piece to the upper limit problem and a solution that ends your big leap struggle.

  • Why fighting against your inner critic, self-doubt, and anxiety backfires and how to turn your inner adversaries into your strongest allies.

  • The biggest untapped resource of a woman’s personal power, why it is locked up, and how to set it free. PS It is also an instant antidote to stress and burnout.

And so much more…

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