Survival Instincts, Emotional Violence, and Shifting Our Awareness with Andrea J. Lee

Andrea J. Lee’s work on emotional violence and my work around Patriarchy Stress Disorder have many beautiful intersections. It made for a very powerful conversation when I spoke with her about how PSD shows up in our lives as we begin to step into our power and how to changing our perspective (and breathing!) can change our lives, and the lives of those we interact with.

In this episode we talk:

  • how patriarchy affects how we feel about our (authentic, original, amazing) ideas, and the actions (or inactions) we take because of the thoughts and stories we’ve been taught

  • how prison guards in our lives can sometimes be obvious and other times be so embedded in the fabric of our lives that they can be very difficult to perceive (and then negotiate with)

  • how our survival instincts – both our own and those we’ve inherited – have kept us from doing all we can and want to

  • how emotional violent relationships leave remnants in our behavior, and the need to examine that trauma

  • tips for creating awareness habits in our day-to-day life

  • the state of expansion vs the state of contraction, empowered relaxation, and how to take up more space

  • the importance of breath and simple (but powerful!) practices for engaging with it

  • exploring our own roles in upholding Patriarchy Stress Disorder, and the signs to look for in our lives and work

  • how stifling our emotional range affects our children, and how reclaiming our feelings propels transformation


Andrea J. Lee is author of “We Need to Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations” and has been a small business coach to forward-thinking business owners committed to breaking new ground. She is considered a leader in the coaching community, and is passionate about a new topic these days. She hopes her talk, and forthcoming book “You Can Stop Being Abusive” will provide hope for everyone affected by emotional and psychological abuse.

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Dr. Valerie Rein is a psychologist, women’s mental health expert, and business consultant who helps people achieve the best ROI by achieving the best mental health—without therapy. Dr. Valerie specializes in uncovering the hidden traumas that hold hostage people’s best work, relationships, and well-being, and effectively heals them with a powerful mind-body methodology. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Dr. Valerie is an author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment and a sought-after speaker at conferences and companies committed to diversity, equity, and inclusion, leadership development, and unlocking people’s potential.

Would you like to have Dr. Valerie speak to your audience? She can share with them:

  • Why despite having checked so many the boxes of accomplishment, high-achieving women are still dissatisfied, and why it’s not our fault.

  • What secretly drains 90% of your energy and productivity and how to reclaim them.

  • The missing piece to the upper limit problem and a solution that ends your big leap struggle.

  • Why fighting against your inner critic, self-doubt, and anxiety backfires and how to turn your inner adversaries into your strongest allies.

  • The biggest untapped resource of a woman’s personal power, why it is locked up, and how to set it free. PS It is also an instant antidote to stress and burnout.

And so much more…

The book is coming! Download a free chapter today.

Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment will be available in a few weeks! Stay tuned. In the meanwhile, whet your appetite with a delicious free chapter.

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